Mystery Solved!!

Some of you may recall the video I posted of Bri hysterically crying in our backyard while running back and forth behind our house.  We moved into this house in July so we could have a fenced in backyard and try to further ensure extra safety precautions for Brian.  He seemed fine with the backyard at first, but all of a sudden he started crying every time we tried to get him to play in the backyard.  I was puzzled and couldn’t quite figure out what was causing his intense anxiety and fear.  I contemplated possible shadow problems but was at a loss because it didn’t matter what time of day we tried to go outside.

I bought a water table in hopes of luring him in the backyard for one of his favorite things, water.  I tried chalk, cars, bubbles….you name it.  Nothing worked.  I began to think that I would start working on 5 minute increments to see if exposing him to the backyard and whatever fear he had would eventually diminish after prolonged exposure.  My parents came over one night and we were able to distract Brian with chalk for at least 15 minutes without tears.  I talked to my husband and we finally decided that a swing set would be the ultimate thing to persuade him to want to play in the backyard.  He has sensory processing disorder and needs sensory input all the time in order to deal with everyday tasks.  One of his favorite ways to get sensory input is by swinging.  He would swing all day if you let him!  We thought for sure he couldn’t say no to a swing.

Since my husband is gone for a year at school, my daddy filled in as the play set builder and boy was it a tremendous amount of work!!!

Bri was Papa's little helper.

Bri was Papa’s little helper.

It was backbreaking work for 2 days!

It was backbreaking work for 2 days!

Molly was a big helper too!

Molly was a big helper too!

 

Payments of hugs and kisses were required.

Payments of hugs and kisses were required.

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Hard hats were required in all work areas!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We had to take a break for dancing too.  Watching this made my heart smile.  I remember dancing on my daddy's feet as a child and it brought back so many happy memories watching Molly with her Papa.

We had to take a break for dancing too. Watching this made my heart smile. I remember dancing on my daddy’s feet as a child and it brought back so many happy memories watching Molly with her Papa.

 

Molly and Brian with the best papa EVER!!

Molly and Brian with the best papa EVER!!

The girl who fears nothing!

The girl who fears nothing!

One happy little dude!

One happy little dude!

Luckily my daddy thought all the hard work was worth it once he saw how happy the kids were.

Luckily my daddy thought all the hard work was worth it once he saw how happy the kids were.

So back to the mystery of Bri’s horrible crying fits in the backyard.

Day 2 – Work was about to commence and I was waiting on instructions as the kids were playing.  I noticed Brian at the same corner of the back of the house where he would always run to and cry hysterically.  All of a sudden I heard him screaming like he was hurt and I ran towards him.  There were wasps flying all around him and I had to knock one off of his arm.  He ran screaming and then dropped on his back on the ground and just kept squirming back and forth crying.  I quickly scooped him up in my arms and took him inside to the couch.

He was crying and scratching the back of his leg.  I didn’t see any stings at first but after a minute or two of searching, I found 3 sting marks.  Poor Bri!!!  He was stung on his pinky, behind his knee and under the band of his tracking anklet.  I’m seriously not the one to have around in situations like these!  Luckily my dad was there to suggest a baking soda paste that I made and put on his stings.  He calmed down shortly after that and I left him on the couch to recover while I went back outside with my dad to work on the playset.

I came inside a few minutes later and found Brian asleep on the couch.  He was out cold very similar to his reaction to some of his seizures.  I’m not sure if he had a seizure or if it was just the aftermath of an adrenaline rush, but he slept for over an hour.  I woke him up a few times just to make sure I could, but he was so groggy that he quickly fell back asleep.

I looked at the corner of the house and I suspected the wasps were living in the rain gutter.  As my dad was spraying them, there was a connecting piece at the bottom of the gutter that came off and the nest came out.  My dad sprayed every one he saw.  I’ll have to keep monitoring that corner to make sure they don’t come back.

Wasp Nest

Wasp Nest

My daddy showed Brian the wasp nest and assured him that he took care of it.  Brian came right back outside after that.  Brian must have been stung the very first day we moved in and was terrified to go back out in the yard.  I hope he only got stung that one other time.  I hope he wasn’t stung on multiple occasions.

It’s times like these where I am in complete awe of my son!  He’s been trying to tell me it wasn’t safe to go in the backyard for several months now, but could never communicate why.  I am often left very frustrated when he can’t communicate something to me and his behavior is unexplainable.  I will always be reminded of this wasp nest and remember that there is a cause for all behaviors……you just have to keep searching until you find the correct one.

 

 

 

8 Comments

  • Elizabeth Graham says:

    I’ll be darned!and none of us thought of anything like that! Good thing he isn’t allergic to stings! Great it’s all figured out and he will play in the yard again, Swing set looks great! that should keep them in the yard and happy for quite a while!
    We had a great time Saturday! much love!

    • admin says:

      I know…..it’s crazy! I can’t believe that he’s been trying to tell me for so long! I’m so thankful that we’ve finally got it figured out and we can enjoy our big fenced in backyard now. It was so good to see you both. Love you both so much!

  • Laura Dolph says:

    I’ll be darned! Such a smart little guy!! Good to see Lewie working! You didn’t let him near any power tools, did you?

  • Viola says:

    Those wasps can be very aggressive and nasty! My son was just stung in the butt by one the other day over and over. We found it in his pants. You don’t even have to provoke them. My husband thought we shouldn’t kill the wasps in the nest (it was in our tree) to be environmentally friendly, but once my son got stung, the spray came out and we got our revenge!! I’m glad you figured it out. It must be very difficult when your child can’t communicate. You should probably get a detective certificate!!

    • admin says:

      Yikes! That sounds horribly painful!! I hope it didn’t leave him terrified to go outside. I have to admit that once I had kids, bugs didn’t stand a chance! Some days I’m better than others. It only took him several months to finally show me what he was trying to say. I’m just so thankful we finally figured out what his fear was and were able to fix it.

  • James Ristas says:

    Glad you figured out the mystery. And I love those pics. Wish I coulda been there to help!

    • admin says:

      My dad would have loved the help. I have to admit that I’m a wimp and made him carry the majority of the weight. Ha! We’re looking forward to see you and Jen at Thanksgiving!

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